“Failure can never overtake us if our determination to succeed is strong.”
A downfall is a relative concept. Improving at any time is based on thousands and millions of failures. And the magnitude and strength of your success are based on how many times you have failed at doing something or trying something new. Sometimes we find the other person in a better position than we are, and we at that moment tend to lose our temper. But one should be inspired from the person, as he/she is likely to be found lacking more than you at something. If someone is worse than you, it is feasible because he/she has not been through all the painful learning experience you have been. And you set an inspiration for others by your attitude.
If you have ever thought about a child trying first time to learn to walk than it is quite understood that the child will fall down and hurt itself. The child will fail hundred of times before it starts walking. But at no point does that child will stop and think, Oh, No! I believe I can not walk. It is not meant for me. Beyond falling the child keeps trying, and t certain time he starts walking with immense happiness on his face.
Avoiding and ignoring failure is what we learn at a certain point in life. A lot of such things comes from our education system. Where actually our performance is given a test. Those who do well are given reward and the one who does not do well are given punishment. Another large part comes from our parents. They do not allow their kids to screw up on their own enough. And instead, they punish their kids for trying something new or something of there choice.
The mass media who distracts us from the base and just put in front of us the tag. They show success after success, but do not show the path or the reality of practicing thousand of hours that have been chosen to achieve that success.
There comes a time when we are afraid to fail, where we naturally avoid and ignore failure. We often stick only to the things which are on our favor or to the only things we are all good at. This theory confines us and holds us down. Remember, we can truly be successful only on those things where we are willing to fail. If we are not ready to fail, it means we are not ready for the success. Always pass on the positive gratitude towards your life, even if you fail regularly. Only your positive attitude will lead you to the path of success and to your dream goal. A downfall is something very important to face, to learn something very beautiful out of it.
A lot of fear for failure comes from having chosen shitty values. For instance, if I measure myself by the standard “Make everyone around me like me,” I will be afraid. Because failure is defined by the actions of others, not by my own action. We are not in control of ourselves. We judge and see ourselves by the eye of other people. Our self-worth is a favor done to us by the judgment of other people about us.
But if instead, I adopt a metric “Improve my social life,” I can live up to my value of maintaining good relationship with others. Regardless of what other people think about me. This way my self-worth is based on my own behavior and positive attitude. I am no more reliable on others for anything for my happiness.
Shitty values, involve external goals which at times are out of our control. This results in great anxiety. And even we manage to achieve them, they leave us feeling empty and lifeless. Because once we achieve them, there remains no problem to solve.
Better values, on the other hand, are process directed. Just like a metric for the value “Honesty” is never completely finished. It is, therefore, a problem that requires continuous effort to re-engage. Every new relationship, bring new challenges and a freedom for honest expression. This value is an ongoing, lifelong process. The underlying value within us must be simple and humble. We must try the endless method to stand back again when we fall. This is what life is all about, through which we upgrade our knowledge and learning.
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